SPEAK UP

Touch is a feeling of love, care & affection.

But have u ever thought it as a feeling of fear,discomfort and stress?

We all know about a Good or Bad touch. Touch by a person can easily make us identify his/her intensions. We are so grown up that we can differentiate between good and a bad touch.

But Did u ever thought of the younger one's, the little one's?

Is it the  way easy for them to identify the touch when someone touches them with wrong intentions?

And the answer is NO, we rarely think of it.Our society,ignores a talk on this issue, why? Maybe, it's not important . Is that so? 

According to WHO:-

» 1in 5 women and 1 in 13 men reports having been sexually abused as a child aged between 0-13 years.

» 105 million girls and young women under 14  years of age have suffered some form of forced sexual contact.

»52% of women and 25% of men have experienced childhood sexual abuse.

»More than 25000 child sexual abuse videos are uploaded between sept.2019 to jan.2020.

In most of the cases the victims are sexually abused in their own house, neighborhood, tutions, schools or by their natives  (i.e., family friends, relatives,cousions..)

These abusers start with a touch in sensitive body part and threaten them to keep their mouth shut.This starts a worst phase in a child's life ,when he/she is not in a position to understand the circumstances.

The time they spot the happening(that they are a victim of sexual assault) feels to be late.These episode leaves the lasting effect on their future life. 

Mainly, these tiny feel unfit to explain their problems...why?

The reason is lack of awareness, they have no idea of what all is going on with them, they don't know what it's being called, they don't know what could imperil such people....so,they on their own try to get out of this clentch.

Substantially, whom do u think is responsible for their lack of awareness?

It's us.....!

we are the one responsible for this.

 'cause we don't feel important talking to our kids on this issue. 

Most of the parents neglect this,they don't apprise their child who could touch them and who can't.

This is where we go wrong...

We have to break our mental wall with our children and have to teach them about the "No touch zones of their body".

 Our child must know about the concepts of Good and Bad touch.Drive them realise the touch that makes you feel safe,fills you with the feeling of care and provides you with a comfort zone is Good touch.

Whereas ,Bad touch makes you feel unsafe or petrified. It's a kind that you don't like.

And we have to enlighten them with the fact that,

"your body belongs to you"

What can we do on this?

There are certain steps through which we can talk to our younger ones and notify them what's good or bad :

-Talk to them in an esay and casual manner,so that the child is comfortable to talk about it.

-Tell them about their 'no touch zones'.

-Teach them to say 'No' when they feel uncomfortable.

-Bond up with your child ,our little efforts such as games, dance or just a sit and chat with them can help them to develop a trust that we are not going to judge them,if something went wrong.

-Don't hesitate to use proper words for the body parts.

-Proper lectures in schools can help a lot.

-Make them feel that your touch is good to them,so that they feel comfortable with your touch as this gives them the feeling of love and affection.

-Do not leave ur child with the person you doubt.

-Ask them about the people they dislerish and why?

A request: inspite of being a parent of a child,if you ever feel something odd with the child ask them to trust you and let them open up with you.

Lastly, my heart to Trauma Survivors .

The worst thing with the survivors is their invisible illness where they wanna prove how sick they are....!

It's true no victim can ever slip his/her mind from all these childhood stolen events.

'keeping quiet' is not a solution for this.

'sharing' is the only pain killer for ur pain.

So start sharing this with your loved ones with whom you feel comfortable and to whom you trust .

And it's a fact that many of them had suffered, many of them are suffering and we don't who's gonna to be next.

So don't be 'Quiet'

'Speak up'

                                 

                                           

      

                                        –Sneha Gupta

                                        –Disha Sharma